It happens. One act performed out of the goodness of ones own heart but later used against them.The equivalent of offering your hand to shake and the recipient offering you their ass to kiss. Why do we as people do this?
Some people do feel that being kind or amiable in many ways constitutes a weakness or failing. I submit to the court–not always. Because I truly believe that there are many many people out there that engage in acts of kindness, sweetness, amiability and empathy out the goodness of their heart. The same people society, many times, labels as the underdog are often some of the most successful people. Was Clark Kent not looked at as the wimp that Lois Lane overlooked for so long? Was David Banner not a kind hearted scientist (though I’m not sure if changing into the Hulk could be considered a success, but you sure wouldn’t consider him weak.)
So, back in the real world. There are survival instincts in each of us that are available whenever we need them. And some think of only the opportunity to pounce on others that may be considered kind or weak. I try to give offers of kindness through my day and sometimes it is met with kindness in return, other times–well let’s just say, slowing down to let someone pass you on the road may just get you a middle finger.
I know, that’s life. I just think that some people forget kindness far to often. And in effect, make it difficult for others. Kindness is not a prerequisite for stupid, or allowing someone to walk all over you. And I think the challenge evolves in learning how to live with a kind heart but not allowing the word, weakness, about you, to be true. It is okay to be nice to others, even when they are not to you. . . . hey, I didn’t say it was easy! Thoughts?